Letting Go

Sometimes we have to let go for ourselves. Letting go could be taking the higher road. We all have toxic people in our lives. But what happens when those toxic people are close to you? Or supposed to be. Studying human behavior there is one thing that we all have in common, when we have it we don't want it. When we don't have it we want it. Some are a little more dramatic than others. Sometimes the people around us who say they want the best for you and should want the best for you,  Do not. Its the facts. This problem is a big one. A good support system is key in helping someone deal with an addiction. Now does this mean bailing someone out of jail continually, No. This means always having listening ears for the ones suffering in silence. Not contributing. When you bail someone out over and over it is only showing them that they can do what they want and have no consequences. I have watched young kids be locked up and here comes the family immediately to bail them out. They were back in my bunk the next week. Children crave discipline. Even though our legal system is failed, there is a reason people have to do community service. Or pay back fines. Or go to probation. The system is trying to get you to take ownership of the things you have done. Instead of it being someone Else's fault. At some point in time we have to know that we are the reason we are there. How we have relationships is a learned behavior. So how we see people starts out by how we see family. Do you have a solid support system in yours? If you are just now starting to feel the pains of someone close to you suffering from addiction, put on your listening ears. Do not put in your fiddling hands. This is probably the hardest part to do for parents and loved ones. I know it is. But sometimes saving someone means letting go. Child or not, people are going to do exactly what they want to do. If you are not strong enough to stand your ground on a constant basis then walking away and answering the phone every once in a while when they call you is probably your best bet. Never just completely quit on someone. Be there. Give them short sentence advice, Guide them in what ever way you feel comfortable. But always guide them to love. Love conquers darkness every time. Breathe.