All in one

When the whole family is sick the whole family needs treated. I was reminded of how the little things are triggers. If someone goes to rehab the real sobriety doesn't start until they are put back in their environment. Also the color of their room and the old clothes they used to wear. The spoons stuck in the books. Or the paraphernalia they forgot in their hoodie. The smell of the comforter where they done their business. I can take you to my closet and show you the exact shirt I was wearing the last time I got high. So when one decides to go off to get help the first thing that needs to be done is a total redo in their room. Period. Now as far as the rest of the family. There should be an evaluation. Does mom have a problem? Does dad? Does whoever else is in their life? If so ,then treatment needs to begin at a family level. Why should one person carry all the weight and baggage of an entire family? As far as 30 days. It is a start. There are deep rooted issues when it comes to addiction. Usually there is only one way out. If you have a structure that you are trying to rebuild.  You have to start at the foundation. If the foundation is not right the house will never be right. Responsibility. That is the foundation. As soon as mom or dad realize "I am just as sick as my kid. I let them live here rent free. There is no cleaning and always people in my home in the bedroom using. I go in there night after night and yell and scream and they all leave. But they are right back at my home the next night." Then you are ready to rebuild. People know exactly what you are going to do, which is nothing. All the screaming and cussing is just that. Nothing. The definition for insanity : To do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. It is scary to think that you are the reason your child is an addict. But when you can accept that statement with no resistance than there can be work done. But someone has got to take some responsibility somewhere. All this "I use because mom don't love me" and "I gamble because I don't want to go home." Gambling at an excess is no different than putting a needle in your arm. It still steals your soul and can put you in just as much debt as dope if you let it. I know people who take their rent money and gamble it away. It is all addiction. It is at what level the addiction is. Cigarette's, Pornography. It all hits the same receptors in your brain. Dopamine. We all want to feel good or at least better. And when you have no idea how to do this in a positive manner like exercise. Than you go for the quick easy way to escape. Its a big swirl of drama. And this life will create so much drama that you can not imagine. I'm hoping and trusting you will not take this road. When one in a family is suffering the question I ask is who else is suffering. Its an all in one treatment plan when I work with families. Until next time.